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<\/p>\nOh, how rich I would be if I got a penny for every person who has asked me if fibromyalgia was actually a real thing!<\/p>\n
Let me assure me that for fibromyalgia patients, or Fibro Warriors as we like to call them around here, well for fibromyalgia patients, it is definitely and unequivocally a real thing. It is 100% real. No buts, or ifs about it. Yep, siree.<\/p>\n
Fibromyalgia is not a hoax. Fibromyalgia is not psychosomatic. Fibromyalgia is not \u201call in your head.\u201d<\/p>\n
And fibromyalgia is certainly not a fake diagnosis for whiners!<\/p>\n
But don\u2019t take my word for it! Fibromyalgia has been discussed as a diagnosis for hundreds of years.<\/p>\n
You read that right. HUNDREDS OF YEARS.<\/p>\n
The first mention of Fibromyalgia in the medical world was in the 1500s when a French doctor elaborated on an ailment affecting some of his patients, who complained of muscle pain and stiffness.<\/p>\n
Granted the term fibromyalgia was not used until much later, this does not change the fact that fibromyalgia has been recognized by the medical community for a really long time. 600-odd years, actually.<\/p>\n
I\u2019d say that\u2019s a good chunk of time, and since the diagnosis is still around, it tells me there\u2019s a good reason it did not disappear.<\/p>\n
So why do people still wonder if fibromyalgia is real? I have my theories. And I\u2019m not afraid to share them!<\/p>\n
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The first and most important (in my opinion) reason why people ask or wonder if fibromyalgia is real is definitely misinformation. There is a TON of research out there proving that Fibro is real\u00a0and painful.\u00a0However, for many years fibromyalgia has been touted as a \u201cmental health\u201d issue.<\/p>\n
This cluster of conflicting information, unclear names, and overall disdain for anything having to do with mental health\u00a0has\u00a0to lead to a complicated and inaccurate picture of Fibro Warriors. We are viewed as whiny, lazy sub-humans with a penchant for fakery.<\/p>\n
Overcoming the biased and misinformed public opinion is a job in itself! Imagine having to do that while your entire body is screaming bloody murder because you have to go up two flights of stairs…<\/p>\n
There are no visible outward symptoms jumping at people, like a broken leg or psoriasis. Therefore one must rely on the patient\u2019s own account to recognize they have fibromyalgia.<\/p>\n
For example, how many of you knew that the American singer Lady Gaga has fibromyalgia? You can\u2019t tell by just looking at her! Yet, she released a movie on Netflix at the start of the month of October 2017.<\/p>\n
In that documentary, she addresses her chronic pain issues and how they have affected her life as a performer. That should shine a bright light on fibromyalgia!<\/p>\n
The fact remains that since you do not have any visible problem, people are always skeptical\u00a0because they have to trust your word against their judgment of your physical appearance – which is that most of the time, you look like a healthy individual.<\/p>\n
Oh, you have to love this one. You work up the guts to talk to someone about your fibromyalgia, knowing full well that you need to grace yourself for a storm of questions.<\/p>\n
And there it hits you in the chest, right on your sternum where your ribs connect to your breastplate. As it leaves you literally speechless.<\/p>\n
In a mix of anger, panic as overwhelming sadness, you realize that the person whom you trusted enough to share a snippet of your life, that person uttered the dreaded words: where is the scientific proof<\/em>.<\/p>\n Allow me to start with a comparison. Your friend tells you they have cancer. Do you ask for proof? Of course not! You empathize and ask what you can do for them.<\/p>\n Let\u2019s take another example. Another friend tells you they have tendinitis in their elbow. Do you ask to see the MRI results? Nope. You don\u2019t. Once again, you ask how you can help.<\/p>\n So why is it that when I tell someone that I have fibromyalgia<\/strong><\/a>, the (almost) universal response is, \u201cDo you have an actual scientific proof? A true diagnosis from an actual doctor?<\/p>\n OUCH. Both figuratively and literally.<\/p>\n But I get it. There is no widely available black or white test for fibromyalgia. Sure, there was a test developed and approved in 2012. But it is still an exclusive, expensive test. And believe it or not, not every doctor out there is aware of it! But that\u2019s a discussion for another day!<\/p>\n The point being, here, that most people are very much like the Bible story of Simon and Jesus Christ. He wouldn\u2019t believe in faith alone that Jesus had risen from the Dead. But sure enough, he had. Seeing is believing, right?<\/p>\n In the meantime, Fibro Warriors are treated like second-class liars on a daily basis, because, certainly, we can NOT know what we are talking about!<\/p>\n I am going to assume that you are familiar with the \u201cone bad apple concept.\u201d If one apple is rotten in a bag, all other apples will rot too.<\/p>\n Sometimes, I feel like people think that way about other people. When it comes to Fibro Warriors, it goes something like this: I once heard of a person who pretended to be sick just so they could get some painkillers. So now, anyone I know who is taking painkillers has to be a drug addict.<\/p>\n Let me set the record straight: just because I need <\/em>painkillers to get my day going does not mean that I want<\/em> painkillers. You see the difference?<\/p>\n As a chronic pain sufferer, I cannot function like a normal human being without my pain meds. It does not make me happy and I am absolutely looking forward to the day where I won\u2019t have to destroy my stomach and my liver with some corrosive meds.<\/p>\n I am not a druggie. In a healthy brain, the painkillers do not act on the pain receptors to lessen the pain. They rather act as a euphoric factor. However, in my fibromyalgia brain, the painkillers act on just that: the pain.<\/p>\n Big difference, there, Mr. Skeptical\u2026 I actually need<\/strong> that stuff!<\/p>\n And if you think it makes me happy to have to take hospital-strength pain-killers and anti-inflammatory drugs before I even get out of bed, well think again! Again. I actually need<\/strong> all that fun stuff just so I can walk.<\/p>\n And it sucks.<\/p>\n Yes. I know. It\u2019s hard to wrap your head around the idea that literally everything hurts. One could even go as far as to say that, indeed, it sounds made up. I\u2019ve been told before that I was always conveniently hurting when I had prior engagements or when someone needed my help.<\/p>\n Are you kidding me?!? Who would deliberately make themselves look like a flake, an\u00a0idiot, and a hypochondriac all wrapped in one flimsy, flabby body?!?<\/p>\n Come on, people. Let\u2019s be real, here. I know you whisper behind my back. I know you talk about me in the break room in the office. I know you discuss my \u201cso-called *wink wink* problems,\u201d when you go out for dinner with all our friends – a dinner which, by the way, I organized – and I canceled because I couldn\u2019t get out of the house. I know all that. And I\u2019m asking you to please stop.<\/p>\n Please.<\/p>\n It\u2019s hard for me to understand it too, you know. I can\u2019t really do anything anymore without thinking about the effects it will have on me the day after or two days after.<\/p>\n It\u2019s like when you\u2019re an athlete and you have to remember \u201cleg day\u201d and \u201carm day\u201d so you don\u2019t overwork your muscles all at once.<\/p>\n It is hard enough as it is to explain that fibromyalgia is real, now semantics get in the way. Unfortunately for Fibro Warriors, it turns out the medical community itself has been divided on the subject for centuries. Yes, you read that right: centuries.<\/p>\n See, fibromyalgia started as fibrosis, then fibrositis, and before it got to fibromyalgia, it underwent dozens of name changes. While the problem has remained the same throughout history, the different names have been a reflection of the times.<\/p>\n As the medical corps understood in more depth what the condition entailed, the denomination was changed to better designate it.<\/p>\n In the name of accuracy, science has led the world to think that fibromyalgia is a brand new thing. A little bit like Prince\/Love Symbol – you never really know what to call it, but you sure as heck know how to spot it! (In Prince’s case, you just had to look for the\u00a0purple extravaganza!)<\/p>\n Nevertheless, fibromyalgia has never changed in its essence, but the different appellations have contributed to a generalized mistrust. After all, we are only human; as humans, our instincts tell us to be wary of things we don\u2019t know.<\/p>\n So when a condition like fibromyalgia, which is already poorly understood, to begin with, shows up under a new name, it\u2019s only natural that people might think it\u2019s not a serious condition.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n And that, my friends, is the epitome of fakery. Or so we hear almost every day. I can see why someone would be skeptical. Everything hurts, but rarely all at once, and the intensity can vary greatly.<\/p>\n Yeah, right. What\u2019s next? You need medical attention because you\u2019re having a bad hair day?!?<\/p>\n Here is where most people have a hard time keeping faith in our words. Literally, EVERYTHING hurts at some point. Yes, my toes too. Yes, my ears, my spleen, and my hips too. And yes, it\u2019s all due to fibromyalgia.<\/p>\n In all honesty, it\u2019s like when people tell me what it\u2019s like to go skydiving. I hear their words. I see their photos. I listen to their account of how it happened and how it felt. But I still have no idea what it is really like.<\/p>\n The feeling of free falling from a plane in the sky is not something I can relate to. Of course, my brain tries to process the fact that you owe your life to a tiny piece of fabric, attached to your body with a few strings.<\/p>\n It doesn\u2019t mean that I understand why you would do it or how the wind actually felt on your face. I\u2019ll never know what that\u2019s like, and not just because I\u2019m not crazy enough to jump from a plane! But I have never experienced it personally, so I have to rely on your account of things.<\/p>\n And my imagination takes me places that may not be akin to reality. It\u2019s a bit like reading a book and then seeing a movie adaptation of the same book. The characters always look different than what our minds had pictured.<\/p>\n Well, same with fibromyalgia. You can tell people a million times what it\u2019s like, they will never fully understand it unless they go through it themselves.<\/p>\n Now, the picture I just painted is pretty dark. Sorry about that. But we need to remember that the vast majority of people does not know any better. They\u2019re not trying to be rude. They just don\u2019t know.<\/p>\n Let me offer you three ways to start making a difference in how the general public sees fibromyalgia.<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/strong>Simply put, shame shows guilt. And there is nothing you should feel guilty of when it comes to fibromyalgia. You have not chosen to have fibromyalgia. You do not enjoy feeling the way you do all the time. And you are not trying to prove anything to anyone by being a Fibro Warrior.<\/p>\n So show no shame, and people will see that you are not hiding anything. People around you will see that fibromyalgia is no different than any other medical condition out there. It is what it is, and you did not do anything to bring that unto you.<\/p>\n Trust me, I get it. Keeping your calm when you are met with nothing but snark and mockery\u2026 well, that\u2019s tough.<\/p>\n But don\u2019t buy into a bully\u2019s game. There is no need for you to become upset over someone else\u2019s incredulity. The calmer you are when you receive criticism, the clearer your answer will be heard.<\/p>\n People tend to be on the defensive when they\u2019re faced with anger. The last thing you need is for your interlocutor to think you\u2019re acting irrationally! So stay calm, and field doubt and questions with the stoicism of an FBI agent undercover!<\/p>\n Stop to think for a brief minute that the people you are dealing with may simply not know what fibromyalgia actually is! For us Fibro Warriors, we don\u2019t need to think about it twice.<\/p>\n Not by choice but by necessity, we have become experts at this fibromyalgia thing. But before we were diagnosed with fibromyalgia, did we really know what it was? I know I didn\u2019t.<\/p>\n I thought it was some kind of made up condition invented for crazy people who were annoying and needed to be handed a diagnosis to feel validated. Pretty bad, right? But that was my reality. I knew nothing about Fibro.<\/p>\n Educating people remains the best action we can take to reduce, and eventually eliminate, ignorance about fibromyalgia.<\/p>\n Now don\u2019t go preaching, because no one likes a preacher. But be open to discussing your symptoms and what you know about fibromyalgia. If you only help one person understand fibromyalgia better, you will have given the Fibro World an amazing gift.<\/p>\n The fact that Lady Gaga came out recently and affirmed that she has fibromyalgia will help the Fibro Warrior community tremendously!<\/p>\n For some reason that I don\u2019t necessarily fully understand, having a celebrity spokesperson will open the greater public\u2019s eyes and will help speed the word about fibromyalgia. It\u2019s almost like if celebrities were incapable of telling lies, therefore if a celebrity says it\u2019s real, then it must be.<\/p>\n I know. It\u2019s annoying. Why can\u2019t people around us trust us when we talk about fibromyalgia? But you know what, Lady Gaga\u2019s celebrity factor will help legitimize fibromyalgia.<\/p>\n Information is available all on the internet and your medical professional\u2019s office. Not all information is good or accurate, so you\u2019ll have to read what you share before you hand it out to someone. The last thing you need is bad information floating around!<\/p>\n The hard part here is to know when and how to disseminate the information. As much as possible, we have resources right here on www.thefibrowarriors.com<\/a> that you can take to your relatives and loved ones, to your coworkers and to the other parents at Junior\u2019s school.<\/p>\n The conversation about fibromyalgia can be awkward, ill give you that. I don\u2019t know about you guys, but for me, when I tell \u201cnew\u201d people that I have fibromyalgia, I feel like I\u2019m whining or complaining or something. But to be honest, I don\u2019t even tell people half of what is going on.<\/p>\n So I, too, am guilty of not sharing my knowledge the way I should. A good way to talk about fibromyalgia for me has been to write about it. And you can, too!<\/p>\n We would love to hear your opinion and thoughts on this topic. I mean, I\u2019m sure every single one of you has run into someone one day who belittled you or mocked you for having fibromyalgia. Writing is therapeutic and cathartic. Share your story! Tell us how YOU cope!<\/p>\n Until next time, stay strong Fellow Fibro Warriors!<\/p>\n![\"is](\"https:\/\/www.thefibrowarriors.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/11\/is-fibromyalgia-real.jpg\")
<\/p>\n4- You\u2019re just a junkie who wants to score some oxy\u2026<\/span><\/h2>\n
5- Yesterday you couldn\u2019t walk, today you\u2019re running. Ok, then\u2026<\/span><\/h2>\n
6- Fibromyalgia, fibrositis, myositis: make up our mind!<\/span><\/h2>\n
7- You mean to tell me that both your toes and shoulders hurt and that it\u2019s related? Yeah right!<\/span><\/h2>\n
1- how no shame!<\/span><\/h2>\n
2- Stay calm!<\/span><\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n3- Educate people!<\/span><\/h2>\n