In 1969, Ida and I moved to Honolulu for my new job. I worked for Elijah Chan, a native of Hawaii and the director of planning at Castle & Cooke (C&C). Ours was the largest company in the islands, the owner of enormous pineapple plantations whose output they marketed under the Dole brand. In one
On a cloudy afternoon in 1965, I moved into an apartment just outside of Baltimore with Les Gorman, a skinny and toothy second lieutenant I had met a few months earlier during officer basic training at Fort Benning, Georgia. The crisp fall air brought a wonderful atmosphere of promise. My cousin Angie in Brooklyn had
For many introverts, the journey toward adulthood often begins with a quiet decision made in childhood: Something about me isn’t enough. The world seems to reward loud voices, visible confidence, and unrelenting sociability. To fit in and feel safe, many of us learn to project a version of ourselves that the world might find more
If you’ve ever felt like you had to act more outgoing to succeed in life, you’re not alone. From an early age, many introverts sense that the world isn’t built with them in mind. To navigate school, careers, and relations, introverts may take on a public persona. Some may call this a mask, but I’d