Hi there,
I don’t know exactly what brought you here today, but if you’re reading this because you’ve recently lost someone… I want you to know I’ve been there too.
And I’m sorry. Really, truly.
When I lost someone close to me, I didn’t expect the small decisions to feel so big. One of the hardest? Picking an urn. It seemed like such a simple task — until I realized I wasn’t just choosing an object. I was choosing how to say goodbye.
I wanted to share what helped me, in case it helps you too.
Start With How You Remember Them
Before even looking at options, I sat with one question: How do I remember them most clearly?
That memory — not the saddest one, but the one filled with love — became my guide.
If your loved one had a calm, grounded presence, you might feel drawn to traditional cremation urns. These are often elegant, timeless, and simple in the best way. They quietly honor the steady souls who showed up, gave love, and left behind peace.
If You’re Honoring a Mother Figure
The person I lost was my mom. And nothing felt good enough at first. How could anything represent her?
What finally gave me comfort was finding a collection made specifically to honor mothers — mom urns. They’re soft and beautiful, with floral engravings and gentle tones. One had rose etching on it — just like the ones in her backyard.
If you’re choosing for your mom, grandma, or any woman who gave you comfort and care, something from this collection might speak to you too.
For the Ones Who Rose, Again and Again
I also think about a friend of mine who picked an urn for his brother — someone who had overcome so much in life and had this incredible fire in him.
He chose from the Phoenix urns collection. And honestly, it was perfect. The phoenix, rising from ashes, was symbolic of his brother’s strength and spirit. It made the urn feel like a continuation of his journey — not just the end.
These designs are bold, meaningful, and full of energy. If your loved one had that kind of fight in them, it’s a beautiful tribute.
For the Quiet Souls Who Made the Biggest Impact
Some people aren’t loud or flashy, but their absence echoes. They were kind, calm, and wise — like quiet guides in your life.
For those kinds of spirits, the purple butterfly urn felt so right to me when I saw it. The butterfly symbolizes transformation and freedom, and purple speaks of peace and depth.
If your person lived gently but left a big impact, this kind of urn is a soft and beautiful way to remember them.
There’s No “Perfect” Choice — Only What Feels True
I know it might feel like a lot. It did for me, too. But please trust yourself.
You don’t need to get it “right.” You just need to choose something that helps you feel a little closer, a little more grounded, as you move through the grief. And when that moment of clarity comes — when you see an urn and feel your chest soften just a bit — you’ll know.
I found mine through Yatskia. Their collections didn’t feel cold or commercial. They felt personal. And in that moment, that’s what I needed.
I hope you find something that speaks to your heart.
With care,
Someone who’s been there
